I've never had an orgasm!

Dear Yasmine,

I’m just going to ask this question, believe me it has taken a lot of courage to write to you!

I’ve never had an orgasm!  I know!  It’s crazy!  I left my husband a few years ago (he was cheating on me… but I digress) and I’ve decided that as I head toward my 50’s I want to take more control of my sexual satisfaction and health.  In fact, my doctor basically “prescribed” me to get a dildo.  I was mortified when she said that to me.

I’ve tried going to the local adult stores, but I’m overwhelmed at everything that is in there.  To tell you the truth, I don’t know half of what those things do!  Also, I’ve been online, but I don’t know where to start.  I guess Amazon.. but then a friend told me about you, so I thought I’d go ahead and ask you!

Should I buy a vibrator or a dildo?  And will it actually help me reach orgasm for the first time?


Flummoxed in Philly

Dear Flummoxed,

Yes, yes, yes! 

So glad you found me, and yes I want to help you weed through all of that information. And Yes!  You will get to experience your first orgasm with the use of a sex toy.

Yasmine’s Room is all about education, accessibility, and providing products for women over 45 who are taking control of their sexual health and satisfaction.

Let’s start with the beginning…

You want to have an orgasm, but don’t know where to start.  We suggest starting with a vibrator.  On our site we offer the following vibrators that can help you reach orgasm, and start feeling satisfaction right away.

One of the most widely used, and highly reviewed is the Magic Wand,  an electric personal massagerthat provides deep, strong vibrations in two varying speeds

Designed as a muscle massager with a large, tennis ball size head, women (of course!)  took it to the next level.  The Magic Wand has been around for decades and is reliable and powerful.  It’s approximately 12 inches long, and 2 ¼ inches wide across its vibrating head. It weighs in at 1.2 pounds, and has a long electrical cord, so it never loses power.

Another vibrator to consider, is the Jimmy Jane Intro 4.   It’s smaller than the Magic Wand, and can provide internal or external stimulation.  It comes with 3 speeds and 3 modes, so you can have fun experimenting, it’s waterproof, and made of medical-grade silicone so it is body safe and Phthalate free.  The price will fit your budget.

Our third option for you, is the Lelo Ora2.  This little contraption works like an oral sex simulator.  Since your partner was unable to help you reach orgasm, this little machine will tease your clitoris, helping you finally find satisfaction in the palm of your hand.

If you're after an out of this world, body shaking orgasm, try the Womanizer.  It comes in a few different styles and sizes, but this clitoral vibrator will put you over the top in achieving your goal! 

Click here to view our selection of Women's Best Vibrators. 

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